Wedding Love

Wedding Day Timelines

I feel like I've written this post a million times over. I've written about wedding day timelines quite extensively here on the blog and the old blog. BUT I've come to realize that this post should be written and rewritten and shared again and again over the years. Especially to those ladies who are currently in the planning stages of their wedding! It seems like the timeline question is asked at almost EVERY client meeting that I have and while I love to help Brides think about their wedding day, it's not exactly something that is easy to communicate within a client meeting, as most wedding days look a bit different.  

So today I'm breaking it all down! From Getting Ready to the First Dance to the Grand Exit, you'll see exactly how I approach a wedding day and just how much time we REALLY need to get everything done!  

A few things to think about before we dive in. First, as stated in my contract (I'm an over-communicator!), we need around 40 minutes for the Bride and Groom Portraits, 30 minutes for the Bridal Party Portraits and 30 minutes for the Family Formals. You'll see how that typically happens during the wedding day below, but these times give us some wiggle room in case anything or anyone runs late, keeps things from running too close together and ultimately helps produce the best photographs AND stress free experience possible!! 

Second, it's important to remember that things are ALWAYS going to take longer than you expected and you want to plan for that BEFORE the wedding day. You're hair and makeup could run late, your grandmother could get lost on the way to the reception, you could have a dress malfunction, your limo could break down truly anything could happen! So instead of stressing on the wedding day, we pad in time here and there to plan for any unknowns and also help to again alleviate any stress on the big day! 

Third, if your First Look location, Ceremony and Reception are at different venues then you MUST allocate for any travel time in your timeline. Will you get stuck in traffic? Will there be enough time between each venue? This is hugely important because if you run late due to travel you entire timeline could be out of whack.  

Finally, I ask all my Brides and Grooms to think about SUNSET on the day of their wedding. Because I am a primarily natural light photographer I want to take advantage of as much natural light as possible. So when we think about what time you pictures will be taking place we also need to be thinking about when the sunsets, what the quality of the light will be and how much time we'll have to work with before that sun dips below the horizon.  

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Here is how a typical wedding day breaks down. *Keep in mind that this is just a mock timeline and your times could be vastly different. The important thing to note is how much time is needed for specific periods of the day. 

This timeline is based on a 5:00pm ceremony start time in the middle of the summer with the ceremony and reception taking place at the same venue. 

1:00pm -- I begin at the Getting Ready location to shoot the details. I'll expand more on this in a later Wedding Love post BUT it's important to make time for the details. I NEVER want to rush with the bouquet, the dress, the jewelry, and I need time to set these shots up. Plus I want to make sure I get as much time as possible with you and your girls as you get ready! 

1:30pm -- Typically this is when my second shooter will meet up with the guys as they get ready. 

2:15pm -- Bride gets into her dress. I do this EARLY for a few reasons. One I want the Bride to have as MUCH time as she needs getting in to her dress. It can take a while to figure out those lace up backs, shoes, jewelry. Plus you don't want to rush through that moment with your mom and bridesmaids! This should be a relaxed NON rushed portion of the day! 

2:45pm -- Travel to the First Look if needed.  

3:00pm -- The First Look. We need time to set up the Groom, get the Bride in position AND allow for as much "couple" time as possible during the First Look. Once the couple has seen each other then we move on to some more relaxed portraits of the two! This hour also allocates any travel time that might be needed to the ceremony site. 

4:00pm -- Bridal Party Portraits. This is plain and simple. We take around a half an hour with the Bridal Party for some fun and relaxed photos! 

4:30pm -- Bride and Groom hide before ceremony (I like to end all pictures around a half an hour BEFORE the ceremony begins. Again this alleviates stress on the Bride and Groom, allows us to set up for the ceremony and allows for a moment of breathing room before things get going! 

5:00pm -- Ceremony 

5:30pm -- End of Ceremony 

5:45pm -- Family Formals. The Family Formals will typically start around 15 minutes following the ceremony as we are allotting time for people to exit the ceremony and say hi to loved ones as they do. I want to get through the family formals as FAST as possible to make sure that people can get to the cocktail hour quickly and enjoy themselves! I also don't typically like to split up the family formals throughout the day as it can get confusing for not only me but your family as well.  

5:30pm - 6:30pm -- Cocktail Hour. 

*Below is a typical reception timeline. Of course your reception timeline could look much different, but this is just to help give you an idea of how your night might flow. Once we hit the reception I'm not quite as involved with the timeline, rather I just go with the flow as things happen! 

6:45pm -- Reception Starts, Grand Entrances.  

7:00pm -- First Dance, Toasts, Blessings.  

7:00pm - 8:00pm - Dinner. During this time I also like to take the couple out for any sunset shots/additional portraits. This is a GREAT time as you are typically relaxed and so happily married and the photographs I capture during this time are typically my favorite from the day!! 

8:00pm -- Cake Cutting, Parent Dances 

8:15pm -- Dance floor Opens! 

9:00pm -- If you have eight hours of coverage this would be around the time when we would be finished shooting. If you have any events that you'd like photographed AFTER this mark, then we can certainly talk about starting later, adding more time or changing the order of things! 

And that's it!! That is how I breakdown the wedding day and incorporate as MUCH photography into it as possible! As always if you have any questions about this, leave them in the comment section below! I'm here to help!

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The Veil

Did you miss it Sunday night? The EPIC return of Downton Abbey and one beautifully inspired 1920's wedding? I couldn't keep my eyes from the television, hooked on every will they or won't they Mary and Matthew moment! (Let's be real, I clapped and cheered!) BUT out of all the turn of the century drama, the one thing that simply took my breath away was Mary's veil. In a word, stunning. Perhaps I'm a traditionalist but I love a beautiful and delicate veil and this one took the cake! 

There are so many options for Brides these days when it comes to what they'll wear and that certainly isn't limited to the dress! Veils come in so many shapes and sizes it can be hard to choose which one is right for you! Or if you should even wear a veil at all! Today every Bride's style is different from the rest, the key is finding the look that works perfectly for you and your dress! 

So if you do decide to go the veil route, what kind should you get? Let's break it down shall we?  

Shoulder length veil -- This is particularly short veil that will hit right around your shoulder, (most of these veil names are quite literal.) Think opening scene of My Best Friend's Wedding! (ya know, I'm a-wishin, and a-hopin ;)) Definitely a more vintage look, but could certainly look amazing with the right dress and Bride! 

Blusher -- Ahh the blusher! A piece of delicate fabric that will be attached to your veil, meant to flow over the Bride's face as she walks down the aisle. These will come in all shapes and lengths depending on the veil, like seen in Mary Crawley above. I simply LOVE blushers.  

Elbow length -- An elbow length veil will hit right around you guessed it, your elbow. a perfect fit for a hot summer's day! And depending on where you place your veil in your head could determine the length of the veil. Some woman prefer to place the veil at the nape of their neck while others will place the veil towards the top of their head. Try the different positions and see what works best with your hair and your face structure. 

Fingertip length -- A fingertip veil will hit just around the bottom of your fingertips... something I learned when trying on veils! This seems to be a VERY popular option for brides as the veil doesn't flow all the way to the ground but still gives that ethereal bridal look! Think Kate Middleton and the Royal Wedding:). (Psstt, my veil was this length.) 

Floor Length -- Floor length pretty much is true to form, as most floor length veils will skirt the bottom of the floor. Very Similar to the Chapel and Cathedral veils, but just shorter in length.  

Chapel Length -- Chapel length will typically fall at the end of the train on your wedding dress (of course depending on the length of your train!) It will flow down the back of your dress and land near the end of the hem, making it a dramatic addition to your wedding dress! Typically these veils are traditional for church settings, but c'mon who wouldn't love to see a beautiful long veil blowing in the wind of an outdoor ceremony?! 

Cathedral Length -- Ok we're talking Princess Di or Sound of Music length veil here. This is the veil made for drama! So if you're walking down a long church aisle or just want to go for that added drama of a LONG veil, this is the one for you! And as a photographer, can I just say that this is my FAVORITE kind of veil to photograph? It's just so incredibly bridal and feminine and offers so many options when photographing the Bride! Definitely NOT just for church weddings so if you're getting married outdoors don't be afraid of the longer veils! 

Details -- Veils are trimmed in everything from a simple satin fabric to beading to intricate lace. (Some Brides have even monogrammed their veils!) Depending on your dress the detail on your veil should match whatever detailing you have on your dress. Your veil shouldn't compete with the dress but pair with it perfectly! 

Other Options -- Beyond just the traditional veil, there are so many options for Brides looking to be just a bit different on their wedding day. Birdcage veils, flowers, brooches, headbands, and more! 

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So are you going to wear a veil on YOUR wedding day? I honestly think there is nothing more Bridal and beautiful than a delicate veil!! If you're not wearing one, what are you doing instead?!

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Dealing With Street

I've always been a person to "stress out". Little details can often times send me over the edge, a symptom of my OCD tendencies. I have to say when it came time for my wedding, I wasn't too stressed, until the day of. I remember, for the first time ever, being handed a paper bag by my bridesmaid and sternly told, to "breath." Most of my anxiety was due to this HUGE LIFE CHANGING event taking place. But I'm also mature enough to admit that part of the planning had finally gotten the best of me.  

I remember crying as it rained, I remember being snippy with family during family formals, I remember being annoyed with Dave when he stepped on my dress and ripped it, I remember being REALLY annoyed when our exit song was played BEFORE we exited!! I remember seeing our centerpieces of florals without water.... and did it get to me! 

As I look back on it all, I just want to tell myself don't sweat the small stuff! When Dave and I look back on our wedding day, we remember what I said in the limo that night, "That was the best day EVER." And it really was. Nothing that could go "wrong" could have made that day any less perfect than it was. I'll remember that feeling forever.  

And that, that is what is MOST important on your wedding day. How you'll remember that day forever. How you'll remember how you felt on that day, what your spouse whispered in your ear, the people you got to hug. Not all the little things that went "wrong." So Brides, my plea to you is to just enjoy your day. I know, things can go wrong. Things can be cause for stress. But at the end of the day, those things truly don't matter. Your marriage does. And I'd rather see you with a BIG smile on your face when I'm taking your picture than one with a crinkled nose and a frown.  

Does that make sense? I know it can be hard to picture how you'll actually feel on your wedding day, but having now photographed lots of weddings and LOTS of Brides, I can say that the most successful weddings with the happiest couples, come from when the Bride and Groom decide to just let go and enjoy whatever the day throws at them. 

I enlisted the help of two of my Brides to share their experience on how they handled stress on their wedding day and how it made their day that much better and memorable!  

"From the first day we started to plan our wedding, Jon was the main reason that I kept (relatively) calm! I am usually the one that is all business and stressed out, but we promised from day one that the wedding was going to be about just that... us getting married. Everything else wasn't going to phase us. Once in a while, when little worries and details came up, we kept each other in check about not getting too worked up. On the big day, I spent an hour by myself in the morning to take a LONG shower and re-group. If I hadn't done that, it would have been very easy to get caught up in the excitement of the day, and of the rehearsal dinner the night before. I had hair and make up come to my bridal suite, along with my Mom, Mother-in-Law, and bridesmaids. I think it made a huge difference to not have to leave the room and *potentially* run in to my hubby-to-be the day of before we had intended to! We also had the restaurant deliver food... which I totally ate... and it totally helped :) Lastly, but most importantly, I smiled! ALL DAY! If you are stressed out, but smile your way through it, the negativity just can't help but melt away! Everything went perfectly on our big day according to Jon and I because we achieved our ultimate goal: getting married :) -- Diana

For me, there were two major things that I did in the very beginning of the planning process that relieved a ton of stress. The first was to set a reasonable wedding budget - this was key for all decisions that we made about the wedding day & reducing stress between my husband and I. But the biggest stress relief was hiring a professional wedding planner. I know some people think this might be a "waste of money" as my husband called it when I first suggested. However, it seriously saved my sanity and even he ended up agreeing closer to the end of the planning process. Working a full time busy job meant that I didn't really have the time I wanted to devote to all the little details. But my wedding planner did & she was fantastic! Plus she recommended the BEST vendors - we loved everyone that we worked with! This was also huge in relieving stress, especially on the day itself. I knew that I could trust my vendors to do their job and not have to worry about it because I chose wisely. Even my hairstylist told me I was one of the calmest brides he had ever worked with! On the day itself I got really nervous when it was time to get into my dress - reality set in! My husband and I had decided on a First Look and boy am I glad! As soon as I saw him, the stress melted away & I was elated! -- Amanda

Some tips to help with wedding day stress: 

1. Hire someone to think about all the little details for you!! And if you can't afford a planner in your budget, enlist the help of a family member or close friend who can "oversee" the flow and details of the day! Dave and I were the latter of the two, having a good friend help us throughout the day, and it was HUGE! She even carried my train! 

2. Schedule a spa appointment the week of the wedding. Undoubtedly the most stressful part of the entire planning process has to be the week before the wedding, when everything seems to come together all at once. If possible schedule a day for you and some of your ladies at the spa. Treat yourself to a massage, a pedicure, a facial, whatever it is that relaxes you. And if you're not one for the spa, just schedule a day out for you! One where you can get away from all the planning and just BREATH. I really wish I had done this! 

3. Remind yourself why your getting married in the first place! And no, it's not to have the perfect wedding! With planning, we can often get so caught up in the details, we forget what's most important in the first place : the marriage! Take some time to spend with your fiance, to mediate, to pray. Whatever it is that will help center you and bring you peace.  

For those who have been through this whole process before, what was it that allowed for a "stress free" (or relatively so) time on your wedding day or leading up to the wedding?! 

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Vendor Highlight

Meet Long Haul Films

It's a much overdo Vendor Highlight today on the blog!! And I have to say I'm pretty excited about this lovely couple you're about to meet! I first met Melissa and Tom earlier this year as I started to plan my promo video! I immediately fell in love with their urban chic vibe and knew they were the perfect fit for the project! (You can read more about that here!). 

Together, married couple Melissa and Tom make up the team that is Long Haul Films. They create the most beautiful and REAL wedding films and I'm always blown away by their work! They travel extensively throughout New England and are a highly sought after duo. They make weddings into a work of art and I simply adore all that they do! So naturally, I had to share them with you! If you want to see more of their amazing work, click here. And to follow along with them make sure to check out their blog! Here we go! Let's meet Melissa and Tom! 

Deb -- Hi guys!! Thanks so much for taking some time to spend with us on the blog today!! How about we start with a little bit about the two of you:)

M&T -- We're Tom and Melissa, the husband and wife team behind Long Haul Films, a Boston-based production company that makes wedding, documentary and commercial films. Melissa is a Boston native and Tom comes from the north of England. We met in London and moved to Boston after we got married a few years ago. Yes, Tom will bring his English accent to your wedding! 

Melissa is Long Haul Films' Creative Director and before launching the business, worked in international advertising in London, Europe and the Middle East. Tom is Long Haul Films' chief Cinematographer and Editor with a passion for visual storytelling developed at the University of York, where he founded the University of York Filmmaking Society, and a Master's program in Feature Film at the prestigious Goldsmiths College, London.  

Deb --You have a pretty diverse portfolio, how did you get started in weddings?

M&T -- Film and filmmaking has been a shared passion from the moment we met. Our first creative collaboration was a documentary project about the meaning of modern marriage. It led to an opportunity to film a wedding, which we did as a favor to a friend. It turned out to be a bigger favor to us because we instantly fell in love with making wedding films! From the beginning, we knew we wanted to make wedding films that tell the interesting and unique stories of the couples we work with in a beautiful and cinematic style. 

Deb -- What is one thing that you just love about your job?

M&T -- Hmmmm, only one thing? If we have to pick one, it's that we have the privilege of capturing the best day of our clients' lives and turning it into a film that they can watch and enjoy for years to come. It's a wonderful, rewarding thing to do for a living and it makes us feel genuinely thrilled when we've made our clients happy. 

Deb -- As a Bride starts to plan her wedding, why would you encourage her to hire a videographer?

M&T -- The couples we work with invest so much time, energy, passion and money into making their wedding day a celebration of their relationship and reflection of themselves. After weeks, months and sometimes years of planning the day passes by so quickly! No matter how hard you try to see everyone and do everything, there are parts of your wedding that will go by in a blur. Having a wedding film is the perfect way to revisit favorite memories, and also a chance to experience moments you might have missed the first time around. There aren't many days in life that are like your wedding day -- when all the people who love you come together to celebrate you and your relationship. Hiring a talented videographer allows you to enjoy that experience again and again; to share your wedding with those who might not be able to join you on the day; to show your children and grandchildren down the line. 

Deb -- What is one thing you wish Brides knew in regards to wedding videography?

M&T --There's a lingering stereotype that wedding videographers use giant cameras, overwhelming spotlights and get in the way of guests. In fact, we're able to capture beautiful, high definition footage using the same small DSLR cameras that most photographers use and minimal artificial lighting. Most of our clients comment on how unobtrusive we are and once the day gets going, they completely forget we're filming. That's a big compliment to us-- if our clients and their guests can forget we're there, the footage we capture will be that much more natural and relaxed.  

Deb -- What makes your style different than the average wedding videographer?

M&T -- We believe the couples we work with benefit from having both the male and female perspective go into the making of their wedding film. We each have different strengths which completely complement each other; we notice different important moments and details; and because we're a married couple, we work together naturally and effortlessly. There are still relatively few female videographers out there, and sometimes we call Melissa our "secret weapon"-- she's not only talented behind the camera, but she loves weddings; follows blogs to stay up to date on the latest trends; and truly understands the emotional energy of the day! 

Additionally, we believe our experience making documentary and commercial films positively influences the quality of our work, the professionalism of our customer service and the scope of our creativity. This year alone we've made a commercial for Four Seasons Hotels & Resorts, a travel film for the Berkshires and a music video for an up and coming band-- not to mention the promotional film we made for Deborah Zoe Photography! Doing this kind of work stretches us creatively and provides us with many ideas and inspirations that we bring to our wedding clients.  

Deb -- What is your favorite part of a wedding day?

M&T -- Again we ask... do we have to pick just one part?! There are so many moments we love... and love to capture with our cameras. Seeing the bride when she first gets into her dress and is truly transformed is always a special moment. The look on the groom's face when he first catches sight of his wife-to-be is also incredible and powerful. We love to film great speeches-- Fathers of the Bride are often favorites. And then there's the dance floor-- oh, the dance floor! It's so much fun when we see everyone from age 8 to 80 shaking their thing to LMFAO's Party Rock Anthem. Seriously, make sure your DJ has that song on your wedding playlist because it's always one of the most fun moments! 

But maybe most of all, we love those candid, never-could-have-planned-it moments that are so exciting to capture for the wedding film. Like in this trailer for Anne and Andy's wedding which took place on a sweltering August day in a rustic barn in New York. At the end of the night, the bride, Anne, jumped into the pool at the venue-- fully clothed in her Vera Wang dress. What a once-in-a-lifetime moment to capture! 

Deb -- What do you love to do when you're not filming weddings?

M&T -- Um, is it sad to say that in our spare time we love making films? We usually have at least one personal film project that we work on in our spare time and it's truly one of our favorite things to do. It's hard to separate us from our cameras and editing equipment. But when we do break away, we love anything to do with the arts-- going to film festivals, galleries, concerts, performances of any kind. We love to travel and take any excuse to jump on a plane and explore somewhere new. We both love taking photos and writing (if we weren't filmmakers I think we'd either be novelists or photographers... or both). And we're also often to be found walking our ridiculously cute little Yorkie around downtown Boston. Yes, sometimes in a sweater. Deb --(and yes, their Yorkie is adorbs!)

Deb -- Anything else you'd like to add before you go?!

M&T -- We'd just like to add that we had so much fun making your promotional film and learning about you. That's another cool part of our job-- we get to know so many amazingly talented, interesting and fun people. Thanks for letting us tell your story, Deborah, and we can't wait to see the next chapter. 

Thanks again Melissa and Tom for spending sometime with us on the blog today! Perhaps it's the pregnancy hormones but I started watching some of your films again and immediately started to cry!! Ahh, I just can't get enough!!  

If you'd like to reach Melissa and Tom you can reach them at their website Long Haul Films or by emailing Melissa directly at melissa@longhaulfilms.com.

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The Secrets to Great Getting Ready Images

When I decided to get married, I never even gave the location of where I'd be getting ready a second thought. Of course we'd get ready at my parents house and head to the church immediately afterwards. It was a meaningful location, we'd be with my parents and it was a place that I felt most comfortable. 

But looking back I REALLY wish that I had thought more about this portion of the day. My girls were cramped inside my parent's modest home, there was no room for my dress, and embarrassingly enough there were still remnants of my teenage days hanging about in my room. My dress was hung from the ceiling fan and the room was cluttered with all of our things.  

Out of this "regret", this past spring I wrote a Wedding Love post with tips on how to make the most of this part of your day. You can check it out here. I wanted to encourage Brides to think about things like their Getting Ready location, their Getting Ready details such as the bouquet, dress and accessories, and of course leaving enough time to photograph it all. 

Coming to the end of the season, I've spent quite a bit of time with my Brides this year! Some Getting Ready scenarios worked really well, and some were a little more challenging. I wanted to share just a few lovely ladies (and men!) and their images from the Getting Ready portion of the day, (What were the challenges? What made it successful?) in hopes that it can help future Brides envision what will be best for their wedding day! 

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Rachel and Rob both got ready at the Renaissance Hotel in South Boston for their September wedding. This was great as they selected suites for bridesmaids and groomsmen to get ready in. There was room to spread out, a separate room to store "clutter" such as bags and clothes and a huge bank of windows that allowed plenty of light into the room.I would say that the biggest challenge of this suite, even for all it's benefits, was that it was obviously a hotel room with no unique or defining features. Working around what we were given, we tried to "hide" the fact that we were in a hotel! Additionally, there was also no real place to hang the dress except on a hotel room door. BUT despite any challenges I would shoot in this room day in and day out, for it's size and ample supply of natural light!For Stephanie and Nick's August wedding, Stephanie chose the unique and quirky Hotel Marlowe to get ready. This Hotel offered so many lovely nooks and crannies for all of Stephanie's wedding details. For example, we found this great spot in the hotel lobby for her dress! I highly recommend looking for getting ready locations with personality and character.Stephanie got ready in an oversized hotel room. This was great for her girls and vendors as it allowed everyone to spread out. However, this meant that there was clutter EVERY where and no additional room to hide it away in. We moved a mirror and cleared a corner of the room to allow a simple and de-cluttered space for Stephanie to get dressed. Don't be afraid to move things around and "style" a portion of a room or area. You don't want anything to distract from a beautiful Bride, especially a stray hairspray bottle!For Pat and Liz's farm wedding, Liz got ready in the home of the farm's owners! We were given a VERY small room to work with, with hardly any natural light. Certainly a challenge for me as a photographer! I used the small window light to my advantage however and used the small directional light to give contrast and interest to her details. Once again we placed the Bride in a de-cluttered corner of the room. I wasn't afraid to move things around including the carpet to ensure that the Bride had a simple and pleasing background to get dressed. And while the room was small, it provided LOTS of character that fit right into the theme of Pat and Liz's wedding. For Diana and Jon's Church Landing wedding, Diana got ready in a suite with her bridesmaids. However, the suite was small and cramped with lunch, hair and makeup vendors and Bridesmaids getting dressed. So, we chose to have her Diana get into her dress in a separate area of the Inn that provided more light and space.I'm so glad we did! We had a beautiful bank of windows to work with and lots of room to spread the dress out!Finally for Jon and Emma's Ocean Edge Wedding they both decided to get ready on the venue's property. I've included this picture of Jon because I want to emphasize that all the things we have been talking about in regards to the Bride totally apply to the Groom! Look for an area with lots of natural light, space to spread out (and to hide clutter) and simple backgrounds for the Groom. My second shooter Coco, placed Jon near a window as he prepared his bowtie. There is beautiful light coming through the window, with a simple backdrop to emphasize Jon. While Jon was across the property, Emma got into her dress at her hotel room. To take advantage of the small amount of natural light coming through the deck window, I decided to actually step out onto the deck and shot into the room. This room certainly had it's challenges, but once again we placed the Bride in a small corner, removed any distractions and made it work! As you prepare to think about your Getting Ready images, remember location, location, location! Look for places with natural light, lots of space to spread out and environmental character to add interest to your images. Don't be afraid to remove distracting elements from the room or to style certain areas!

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The Wedding Bouquet

The Wedding Bouquet. At times I feel like an entire wedding could be summed up in the Wedding Bouquet. Loud and colorful or muted and petite, what the Bride carries down the aisle is often symbolic of the feel and theme of her wedding day. The Wedding Bouquet is a huge part of the wedding and it's important to think carefully as you plan and execute the design and feel of the bouquet.  

Over the years I've seen SO many different types of bouquets, from colorful to monochrome, from large and in charge to soft and petite. Every Bride and florist seem to do things differently, certainly making my job tons of fun! 

This bouquet is from a fall wedding, where the Bride chose deep roses and varying flowers to compliment the seasonal colors of New Hampshire. You can just FEEL the fall when looking at this bouquet! It was as if the Bride had gone into a field and picked a large bouquet of wildflowers for her wedding. It completely tied in the feel and season of her wedding and added contrast and color against her white lace dress. 

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While the Bride carried a large bouquet of mostly white flowers, she picked a varied bouquet of purple flowers for her girls. Again, each bouquet has several different kinds of flowers adding interest to each arrangement. They played wonderfully against the dark purple dresses of the Bridesmaids.  

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I loved the Bride's choice of bright purple/pink flowers for her bouquet! Instead of matching the color of her wedding exactly, she decided to use a complimentary color that would play well against the cobalt blues found throughout the rest of the wedding day. While this is a Bridesmaid's bouquet I included it because I loved the way that the colors worked together. The wedding colors were orange and green and in this bouquet the florist used varying colors to reflect that. It's important to note that this was from a beach wedding as well. Again the type and color of flowers uses helped to echo this theme.Purple is one of my favorite colors, so I was swooning over this bouquet earlier this year! Big and beautiful this bouquet popped against the Bride's white dress and helped to tie in her purple color scheme.  

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As you can see, the big, bright pop of purple ties into the Groom's tie and accessories and helps to create a cohesive and vibrant feel! 

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I certainly love the idea of using non floral objects within a bouquet! Here the Bride carried a bouquet of roses and COTTON! How cool?! It created a beautiful, soft and romantic feel and definitely added that "Wow" factor many Bride's look for. The small size of the bouquet played well against this petite Bride's frame.  

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I love the use of varying colors of pinks and coral from this summer wedding! It was a gorgeous seaside affair and the corals played really well against the nautical theme. Again, I love the use of different kinds of flowers and using larger flowers to accent the bouquets. 

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Now I will be the first to admit, that I'm not a huge fan of the white Bride bouquet. As a photographer, I want something that plays against the white dress, something that will pop and add interest! However, I have seen some AMAZING "white" bouquets that worked well against a Brides attire.  

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Now these bouquets are not all white. There are added pops of color, through the use of varying flower types and sizes. It adds much needed interest and contrast to the bouquets without taking away from the main color, white or cream. And like in the example below, they certainly play well off of the Bride's dress as well as her Bridesmaids dresses! 

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I love how unexpected this bouquet is! I can't even count how many different types of flowers and greenery were used. My eye keeps scanning the bouquet looking for something new. I just love how detailed and intricate the design is!  

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As a Bride, don't be afraid to think outside the box or to go all out when it comes to color in your bouquet. This is the item that you'll be photographed the most with (outside of your dress and Groom;)) As a photographer, I love bouquets that add a "wow" factor to the Bride's attire, something that contrasts against her dress and ties in with her Bridesmaids and Groom. Not only is it fun to photograph, but it gives a glimpse into the overall theme and feeling of the day. Your bouquet is a small reflection of your wedding day, so make sure that your choices in flowers, colors, shapes and sizes echo that that theme!

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Your Questions Answered

Last week I sent out a call for YOUR wedding related questions! My biggest response came from fellow photographers who had questions about how I approach the day! While every photographer does things a little bit differently, I've definitely found a rhythm that works for me and my clients the day of wedding! I hope what I've shared below can inspire you to look at the wedding day a little bit differently and encourage you find a rhythm that works for you! 

Abbey - Deborah, I'd love to hear how you prepare for posing your B&G the day of the wedding. I've had a few weddings this year and am beginning to feel like my poses are looking the same. How do you go about making sure that you have a variety of poses while maintaining your style? BTW, I love your new branding!!!!

Great questions Abbey! I think that it's natural to fall into a "rut" with our posing and photography, especially this time of year. We've been shooting, shooting, shooting and often times it can feel like our work is just melding all together. First I would say, don't be afraid to use the same poses with different couples. That's OK! Each couple will make that pose their own infusing their own personality and character into the image. I would suggest memorizing five-ten go to poses that you'll use on the wedding day, but don't stop there! Switch up your lenses and your angles to create different images. Keep the posing simple and use your composition and lens choice to help make each image stand out! That's certainly a challenge I've given myself this year, to use different angles and lenses to create different images of similar poses! Also remind your clients that it's ok to be themselves and stress they should feel free to enjoy one another! Often I'll find that my couples will do the most adorable things without me asking and I just have to be ready to capture those moments! 

Sarah Adams - Can I ask one more question? :) What do you do when a bride has a timeline that does not allow much time for pictures? I want to be more involved with the timeline process but don't want to be too pushy :)

With every wedding client, I am completely involved in planning of the wedding timeline. I do what I call a timeline consultation where I go over each part of the day and give any suggestions where I feel they are needed. I remind my clients how long the Family Portraits will take, how long I'll need with the Bridal Party and how much time I'd ideally like with the couple. I have to educate my clients on all of this as many times they are unaware of just how long something might take. They are hiring me to photograph their wedding day and expect the same kinds of images they see on my blog and portfolio. So it's important for me to communicate with clients exactly what I'll need on the day of to accomplish that. I have had timelines that are extraordinarily tight. In that case I know before had, communicate to the client the restrictions and my concerns and then do EVERYTHING I can the day of the wedding to make the types of images I need. I don't think you're being pushy, you're the expert. Don't be afraid to communicate, communicate, communicate! 

Alicia Candelora - I wouldn't mind hearing how you deal with the weather. My last 5 weddings have had torrential downpours, which always adds a ton of stress to everyone involved.

Before every wedding, I try to schedule a venue walk through where I scope out locations at the venue and the surrounding area. I make sure to communicate with the Bride and Groom before the wedding if there are any indoor options for pictures and figure out where that will be. Even if the weather doesn't call for rain... you never know in New England and I want to be prepared! I also try to limit my expectations. Not in a bad way, but in a realistic way. I have to remember that my primary job is to document the day, rain or shine. And while a white indoor room with no character is not going to be an award winning shot, it's my job to make that room work for the couple! The best example I have is a wedding from last fall way up in Vermont. It rained from sun up to sun down. There were really NO indoor options for photographs. So I placed my couple under an awning and stood in the rain shooting at them. My second shooter held two umbrellas over me as I worked. I had to do whatever it took to get great photos for the couple on during the TORRENTIAL downpours. I was SOAKED at the end of the night, but I had images I was proud to give my clients.  

Sarah - As a photographer, this is my first season of shooting weddings! I've had SO much fun, but now its time to plan for NEXT season...and I've had a bit of an issue when it comes to naming my prices. I created a few set packages, all of which include an engagement session. I have had a few brides ask me what it would cost WITHOUT the engagement session- but truth is, I included the engagement session for a huge reason- to get to know the brides and grooms beforehand! Do you ever have brides ask you that? How do you deal with it? Love your blog! and your pictures are amazing :)

I have couples ask me all the time if they REALLY need an engagement session. Like you, I feel VERY strongly about the engagement session. I simply state to them WHY I feel that they NEED an engagement session: To have amazing pictures of the two of them during such a special time, to learn how to be comfortable in front of the camera, to get know one another and to "practice" before the wedding day. Every couple that I've had the opportunity to explain the benefits of an engagement session too, have in the end, agreed that an engagement session is a huge benefit to their wedding coverage! I would just encourage you to passionately express your opinions on why YOU love doing engagement sessions. 

Gillian Fournier - I am planning my wedding (as a photographer this is extremely stressful, but I do have awesome bridesmaids!) and I am wondering what some of the best seating strategies you have come up with are...I have several people coming to the wedding who are equally important and in theory, should sit together, but they loathe each other. What ways have you come up with to divide tables? By family, by age, by _____? Any imput would be appreciated! PS: LOVE your photos!

Ahh the seating arrangements, one of the most "tricky" parts of planning a wedding! I remember this part of the wedding being the part I particularly loathed, but I did learn a few tips along the way! First and foremost, this is YOUR wedding and while you want to be aware of guests feelings and emotions, don't let that dictate everything you do. Do your best to accommodate but don't let this become a point of stress! Here are a few ideas. Perhaps have two tables next to one another that are both in prominent positions near the dancefloor etc, but allow "room" between guests who may not want to be seated together. Don't be afraid to mix family and friends together at tables either. Sometimes mixing up the groupings helps to create conversation and keeps certain guests separated. Also think about the types of tables you want to use! Long tables can allow people to sit at the same table but without having to be close to one another! Here is a wedding that incorporated long tables.  

It was really fun answering your questions this week! I'd love to hear what you'd like to see for upcoming Wedding Love posts! Leave your suggestions below! 

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And congratulations to Gillian for winning the Starbucks Giftcard! Gillian email me your information so I can send some goodies your way! Happy Wednesday everyone!

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A Call For YOUR Questions

Having been a Bride myself and now a wedding photographer I've seen A LOT. From vendors to locations to dresses to the weather, no two weddings are a like. Each Bride executes her wedding in her own unique way and all of it has given me quite the education in all things wedding related! 

In hopes to help others and share what I've learned over the years, I'm excited to announce that for one week I'm opening up the Wedding Love series to YOU dear Blog Readers! I want to hear from you! What are YOUR pressing wedding related questions? Here are just a few things you might be wondering about: 

Bouquets 

Locations 

Timelines 

First Look 

Family Portraits 

Engagement Sessions 

Wedding Makeup and Hair 

Entertainment 

Reception Decor 

Dealing with the Weather 

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Deborah Zoe Photography, Boston Wedding Photographer, New England Wedding Photographer, Destination

Deborah Zoe Photography, Boston Wedding Photographer, New England Wedding Photographer, Destination

From questions about my own wedding planning to how to best plan yours, nothing is off limits! So please ask away! Former Brides, Photographers, current Brides, Vendors, heck anyone who loves weddings, you're all invited to join in! Just leave your questions in the comment section below.And to make this even sweeter, one lucky commenter will receive a Starbucks giftcard! (Refresher anyone?;)) Keep those questions coming, I'm excited to see what you come up with! Next week I'll be answering your questions right here on the blog, so let's start the conversation!

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A Recap

When I began writing the Wedding Love series, I didn't anticipate how popular they would be. But the series has turned into a favorite of Brides and readers of the blog! They are some of my favorite posts to write; I love being able to share my experiences not only as a photographer but also as a Bride to those planning their wedding. The more information I can give a Bride the better the experience for her! Because we are smack dab in the middle of wedding season I often find myself answering questions, giving suggestions and acting as a wedding coordinator of sorts for many of my couples. After all, this is usually the first time they are getting married and naturally have questions ranging from their timeline, to their vendors, to the order of their reception. I'm always happy to help and give a guiding voice in their decision making process! To further help all you busy Brides out there planning your wedding day, I've compiled a list of all of my Wedding Love posts here. Quick, easy access to everything wedding!  

Vendor Etiquette

The First Look

Being YOU in front of the Camera

Wedding Blogs

Unplugged Wedding

Wedding Style (More Than Just A Color)

Organizing The Big Day

The Wedding Questionnaire

Family Formals

The Importance of Your Wedding Album

A Guide to Getting Ready

Besty From The Flower Kiosk on Wedding Flowers

Nate from DJ Nate Downs on Wedding Receptions

Lena of Hair The Moves on Looking Your Best

Diana of Diana Wedding and Events on Personalizing Your Wedding

What To Wear to your Engagement Session

Destination Weddings New England Style

What is MY style of photography?

Why Professional Makeup is a MUST

The Wedding Day Timeline

My Favorite Wedding Memories

Next week I'll be changing the format up just a bit. If you're a Bride, former Bride or even a photographer, make sure to come armed with all of your wedding related questions!! Plus I've got a little surprise for you! 

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Vendor Etiquette

I never thought I would have to write this post. I had heard of other photographers having trouble, but honestly I never thought it would happen to me. (Ok, ok, now I sound like some sort of life insurance commercial ;)) 

Honestly I never did. I have had the opportunity to work some amazing vendors in the past few years who have been a JOY to interact and collaborate with. But recently I have noticed an ever increasingly popular (and disturbing) trend: Vendors with cameras. 

And no, I'm not talking about vendors who bring a camera with them to the wedding day to document their work. I COMPLETELY understand other vendors wanting to take pictures of their bouquet, their centerpieces, their entertainment set up, their cake, etc. In this digital age it makes sense! Vendors want to post to their Facebook page, their blogs and their websites and share their work with their clients! (And as for the images that I take on a wedding day, I am always happy to share with other vendors!) 

What I'm talking about is something completely different. A trend that is not only is in poor taste and jeopardises the integrity of the wedding photos, but also puts my Bride and Groom in negligence to their contract, without them even knowing it!! What I am referring to is the "Other Photographer." 

In my contract I state that I will be the only contracted photographer at the wedding. I'm the professional that the couple has hired to document their wedding. Basically all that means is that I am the hired pro at the party and that there will be no other people ACTING as wedding photographer. Guests and vendors of course are more than welcome to take images during the day, but their actions shall not interfere with my job OR act in such a way that mimics mine. 

Unfortunately, recently, I have experienced times where vendors have directly interfered with my job, acting as the "Other Photographer". Standing in the middle of the aisle during the ceremony, standing behind me during the ceremony, getting in shots of the Bride and Groom, physically getting in my way, standing on the dance floor during the First Dance, pointing direct flash at the couple when I'm using natural light, and in one case taking pictures the entire day. This is frustrating, inappropriate, unethical and unnecessary. Please, if you are a vendor, understand that this does not help your couple and creates great confusion for the Bride and Groom and their guests. In short it prevents us from doing our individual jobs to the best of our ability. Jobs that we were hired to do. 

My advice to every Bride and Groom is to speak with your vendors BEFORE the wedding day. Make sure you communicate with each other your expectations of behavior. Don't be afraid to share your photography contract with your vendors so that they can be educated on what is appropriate and what is not. Believe me, this was something I never even dreamed of asking my vendors about when we were planning our wedding. But with the accessibility of a "good" digital camera, this is a trend that is becoming more and more prevalent.  

I think it's important to state that this post is not meant to be some sort of scathing article about vendors who bring cameras to wedding. Again, like I stated before, I'm all for it! As a small business owner I completely understand the WHY and the NEED for taking pictures of your work! But what I think is important to remember, is that we must work together to give the couple the best experience possible. And while our individual parts of the wedding day are certainly important, the wedding experience as a whole is what is going to leave a lasting impression on the Bride and Groom.  

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Finally, my couple, I want you to walk away with amazing pictures of your wedding day. I think we (your vendors) can ALL say that we want the best for YOU. We MUST WORK TOGETHER to provide you the best experience possible. Through proper etiquette, professionalism, and cooperation, we can help create (and document) the wedding of your dreams!

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The First Look

**Disclaimer: I do feel the need for a disclaimer before I dive into this long post. While I do have strong opinions about a First Look, I completely understand that it is not for every couple. People have varying thoughts, ideas and traditions about what a wedding day should look like. And though I'll say it again later in the post I'm going to say it here before we begin: I would NEVER force a couple to have a First Look. While I do have specific opinions about the First Look, at the end of the day YOU have a specific vision for your wedding day, a vision that is IMPORTANT to protect. As a Bride turned photographer my hope is only to educate you on the First Look to help you make a decision that is right for you.** 

With that out of the way, let's begin! Here's a candid First Look from this Liz and Pat's wedding this past weekend. The Groom could not have been any more adorable than when he saw his Bride! 

I want to tell you a story. A story about my wedding experience. 

Dave and I were married in 2006. I was 22 and he was 25. I was fresh out of college (by a few months) and he had just finished his first year at GE. We were EAGER to get married. We planned our wedding on a budget and did the best we could. We were some of the first of our friends to tie the knot and I remember thinking that I had no idea what I was doing. I just wanted to be married. 

When it came to planning out the timeline of our day, I didn't even give it a thought. I knew when the ceremony would start and stop and when the cocktail hour would begin. My poor photographer as I think back on it now! He did the best he could with what little we (and the thunder-storming weather) gave him. We did everything in a traditional manner from our attire to our vows to not seeing each other before the ceremony. 

Because THAT'S just what you did. There was no such thing as First Look (back in the days of 2006 ;)). We didn't even know that was an option. 

This is how our "First Look" unfolded. I was a ball of nerves before the ceremony. I was a WRECK. And all that was getting me through was knowing that I would see Dave at the end of that aisle. That we would have "THAT MOMENT". Ya know some how time would magically stop, all Zach Morris style, and we would speak to each other the things that we were feeling. Well guess what, that didn't happen. Because do things ever go exactly the way you imagine them? Things like, my dress getting stuck in the doorway, my dad and I barely fitting down the aisle, the snot pouring from my nose, the makeup running down my face. As I brought my eyes to Dave to have our MOMENT, there was the look I'll never forget. HE WAS FROWNING. Dave was SO nervous that he forgot to smile. His best man had to lean over and nudge him, "Don't forget to smile!" Before I knew it I was at the end of the aisle and the ceremony began. No words were spoken to each other except for a whispered "You are beautiful" and we were off. That magical moment, yea that didn't exactly happen. 

What did happen though was my Father walking me down the aisle telling me "Let's do this!" What happened was a beautiful moment as my Father gave me away. What happened was Dave came and replaced my Father's arm with his and walked me to the alter. Those moments were beautiful and memorable and ones I'll never forget. But believe you me there was no magical Zach Morris style moment for Dave and I. 

If I could go back in time to the 22 year old bride getting married, I would have begged her to consider having a First Look. I would have told her about how it would save her timeline. I would tell her how seeing her groom BEFORE the ceremony would calm her nerves and give her a confidence of "Let's do this!" I would tell her how she would have amazing pictures in her album of her and husband, embracing one another instead of just the afforded "posed" shots. I would tell her just how special being able to speak to each other the things your heart is feeling really is. In short I would tell her "Have a First Look." 

Now, a lot of people will say that having a First Look takes away from that first time moment when you see each other as you walk down the aisle. And I have to be blunt. I disagree. Because that moment as you walk down the aisle, nothing can compare to that. That moment when your Dad gives you away to your husband is a special moment in of itself and a First Look is not meant to replace that. A First Look is not meant to replace that moment when your Groom watches his Bride make her way towards him. A First Look is only meant to compliment those moments. And while I know that it's hard to understand that NOW, trust me. Whether you see each other before the ceremony or as you are walking down the aisle, those moments are both equally special and beautiful and moments you will never forget. 

Still with me?:) Let's fast forward from 2006 to 2011. Because Dave and I had a RAINY wedding day, because our timeline didn't afford many pictures, because we didn't have a First Look, our wedding day images are not truly indicative of us. We were always longing for images that truly represented who we are as couple. So as an anniversary present Dave arranged for one of my favorite photographers Katelyn to come to New England and "retake" our bridal portraits. And guess what we decided to do: Have a First Look. 

You may ask WHY we decided to have a First Look. Dave and I had been married for five years at this point. He'd seen me at my best and he'd seen me at my worst. My friends, the mystery was LONG gone. Besides it's not like he hadn't seen me in my wedding dress before! Why would we have a First Look?? 

Because a First Look is NOT about when you see each other or how many pictures you can take before the Ceremony. It's about HOW you feel as your Groom watches you come around the corner. It's about the butterflies dancing in your stomach as you watch the smile on his face. It's about falling into his arms as you share in a moment you'll never for get. It's about having the TIME to speak to another what's on your heart. It's about creating the space and the time to express to one another how you truly feel. That is what a First Look is meant to do. And it's just as special on your wedding day as it is five years later. That moment NEVER changes because it's not centered around a tradition, it's centered around YOU. 

As I look at this picture, I remember exactly what I was thinking as I walked down those steps. I felt like a little school girl, wondering if the boy I liked thought I was pretty. I remember the butterflies dancing in my stomach as I made my way to him. I remember falling into his arms and having a moment we NEVER shared on our wedding day. Five years later it was as if we were reliving our wedding day, making a memory we never had the chance to create. This is the moment I realized just how special the First Look truly is. On the wedding day or five years later. 

Look at his face! Look at that smile! After five years of marriage and he STILL looks at me that way! Swoon;) 

I'd like to make one more point before I get off my First Look soap box. Dave and I are very traditional people. So much so that we didn't live together before we got married. We did almost everything in a traditional way from our courtship, to engagement even down to our wedding day. And if I were to get married again today, I would do it all the same. Except for one thing, I would have a First Look. If you are a Bride or Groom who wants to have a traditional wedding, I understand! I was that Bride too! But I hope that what I've shared with you will help change your perception of what a First Look is and how that CAN fit into your traditional wedding day without taking away from the traditions that are so important to you. Remember a First Look doesn't take away, it only enhances. 

I'll end by saying that I would NEVER force a couple to have a First Look. While I do have specific opinions about the First Look, at the end of the day you have a specific vision for your wedding day, a vision that is important to protect. As a Bride turned photographer my hope is only to educate you on the First Look to help you make a decision that is right for you. 

For us a First Look, even five years later, was incredibly special. In that moment I fell in love with Dave all over again. It's a moment I'll cherish forever. It's moment that was captured by a camera to be relived for years to come. 

Did you have a First Look? What was your experience like? Are you considering having a First Look? I'd love to hear your story in the comments below!

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Being YOU In Front of the Camera

Welcome Monday, you sure are dramatic! Nothing like a crazy lightening storm to kick off the work week! 

Today I'm sharing my thoughts on posing in front of the camera. Over the weekend I had two amazing engagement sessions with two amazing couples. For both couples, it was more or less the first time they had ever been professionally photographed. They needed direction and guidance and most of all REASSURANCE that they were fabulous in front of the camera. Because guess what, "being yourself" while being photographed is HARD. There is an art of being in front of the camera and it's definitely not something that comes naturally, to me at least. I feel for my clients and work hard to make them feel as comfortable as possible and reassure them that they are fabulous! 

Because I'm a visual learner I thought that today along with some tips and tricks about posing, I'd show you some images that have been taken of ME over the past few years. Like my clients, I had rarely ever been in front of the camera before my first real photo shoot. I didn't have ANY idea on how to pose or ACT while being photographed. The first time I had professional portraits taken I was a mess. I was so nervous and I had NO idea what I was doing. Luckily, I worked with an amazing photographer and friend, Shyla, who put me right at ease. That leads me to tip number 1: 

1. TRUST. You MUST trust the person who is photographing you. You must trust that they are going to take good care of you and that they will make you look your best! I went into my portrait session with Shyla trusting in her completely. I knew that she was a talented photographer who knew what she was doing. But I also knew she was charismatic, friendly and could care less if I looked like a total idiot. I knew that working with Shyla would be a great experience, and it was. I was more confident to try different things and be myself in front of her camera because of the trust I had placed in her as my photographer. 

I definitely learned from that first portrait experience. After seeing those images I began figuring out HOW I worked best in front of the camera and practiced in front of the mirror at home. Yep, I worked my model eyes for myself. And while I felt like a complete fool at the time, I slowly began to understand how to move my face and my body to positions that were flattering. Which leads me to point number 2: 

2. PRACTICE. I know it probably sounds CRAZY, but practicing in front of a mirror or a friend's camera is actually a great way to learn how to pose. Practicing allows you to see how you move, how you smile, how you laugh. For example, what I thought was my "Model" face was not in fact model-esque at all. I just looked mad. Like run away for me right now kind of mad. I've learned that I look best smiling. That I look best moving and that I really enjoy a LOT of direction from my photographer. I also learned that I can't just stare at the camera and smile. There HAS to be LIFE behind my eyes. If there is one thing that makes or breaks an image, it is within the person's eyes. Bring life to the eyes and the entire image will come alive. Practice in front of a mirror you'll see exactly what I mean. Watch as your eyes move, change, react. I know, I know, it really sounds crazy, but believe me it will pay off! Practice, practice, practice. 

By the time Dave and I had our portrait session with our friend Katelyn, I had been in front of the camera numerous times. I had begun to learn how to move and pose my body. And most importantly I had gained confidence in myself and how I looked. I found out that indeed I could take some risks and "work it" for the camera. With each person that I worked with I gained more and more confidence to just have FUN and enjoy myself. Which leads to point number 3: 

3. HAVE FUN. The best images come when people let down their guard. When they let out a giggle or a sigh, when they spontaneously embrace or kiss. You're allowed to have fun and to enjoy your time in front of the camera! A great photographer will make that easy for you, especially if you trust them to capture you in those fleeting but wonderful moments! Some of my favorite images from our time with Katelyn was when Dave unexpectedly pulled me close and whispered in my ear. Love that guy! 

As you can see in the above images, sometimes things can go wrong. My veil started doing it's own thing. My hair was blown all about. My lipstick wore off about halfway through the shoot and I ripped holes in my dress. And I could have let all of that ruin what ended up being an AMAZING portrait session. Of course this leads me to point number 4: 

4. LET GO. At some point you just have to say, I'm letting it go. Because nothing is ever going to go exactly to plan. Your hair may blow in the wind, your dress my get a rip (mine sure did!), you might get makeup on your husband's suit, I could go on and on. If you let those things get in the way, you could miss the chance to make some amazing images! Of course you want to look your best during your shoot. But how could you NOT look your best wrapped in your fiances arms? How could you not look your best laughing at your run away veil? Learn to let the little things go and you might just end up with some of your favorite images ever. 

My final set of images to show you are from my portrait session with Justin and Mary, images taken for my new branding. Having now spent a LOT of time in front of the camera, I felt that I had a good sense on what to expect. I knew how to move my body and position myself. But I was also keenly aware of those little imperfections that drive me crazy. But despite my own insecurities, I knew that in order to get the best images possible, I had to ignore my own self doubt and just go for it. My final tip for LOVING your time in front of the camera is to embrace your imperfections. 

5. EMBRACE YOUR IMPERFECTIONS. Too often we let our self doubts get in our own way. For example, I have bright red FRIZZY hair. I have man-ish hands, I'm not super skinny and I have large arms. Oh and I have size HUMONGOUS feet, plus I'm pale, have acne and some of my eyelashes are shorter than the others...I could go on and on. These things used to PLAGUE me and I was terrified to be in front of the camera. Because (especially to girls), your worst features are what seem to be highlighted in every image taken of you. But guess what, you are the ONLY person that sees that. Everyone else only views you as beautiful. So know your strengths and your weaknesses of course. But don't let that ever stop you from just being YOU in front of the camera. If I had done that I would have never these images below with my husband. These are images that I cherish. Are they perfect, absolutely not. My stomach is sticking out, my skin is SUPER pale, my hair is blow all about. But that is NOT what matters in these images. What matters is the love we share for each other. What matters is that our true selves were captured, preserved for years to come. And while I may not be perfect, to me, these images are. 

Having your picture taken is challenging. But the more time you spend in front of the camera, the more comfortable you will be and the more confidence you will gain. Remember to trust your photographer, practice your posing, have fun and let go and embrace your imperfections! If you can do those things, I promise you'll end up with images you'll cherish for years to come! 

Did you find this helpful? For those of you who have been in front of the camera before, what was the one piece advice you found most helpful? What would you say to someone getting their pictures taken? I'd love to hear! 

Finding Your Inspiration

Wedding Love

When I planned my wedding six years ago there were only a few resources available to me to help in the planning process. My friends, the magazines and television. But today with the popularity of blogs, twitter and Facebook it seems like the resources are ENDLESS. 
 
Here are some of my favorite go-to blogs that I feel offer the most help to future and current brides with their wedding planning. Whether you need help getting inspiration for your details or just need some tips on how to handle the day, these blogs have it all! 
 
Style Me Pretty 
 
Style Me Pretty is probably the mecca of all wedding blogs and no doubt you've either heard of them or are using them for guidance in your own wedding planning. They feature stunning detail oriented weddings from all over the country. They even have a Massachusetts weddings specific branch of their blog! I love the events that they feature and it's clear that these brides have given much thought into the planning and details of their day. If you're looking for inspiration, head to Style Me Pretty. You'll overload on all the eye candy! 
 
Heart Love Weddings 
 
I first stumbled onto Heart Love Weddings when Alex featured an image of mine from a portrait session last summer. Ever since she's steadily grown the blog to become a resource of wedding tips for brides as well as featuring some amazingly beautiful engagement sessions and real weddings. Her down to earth writing style and passion for love and weddings is what makes this blog a must read. 
 
Grey Likes Weddings 
 
For the modern and stylish bride, definitely head over to Grey Likes Weddings where Summer curates a collection of weddings, products and advice for today's bride. I'm always drooling over the images and weddings she features. Summer has great taste and so she chooses very carefully the wedding she shares. If you are a detailed oriented bride (who loves fashion, style and design) make sure to bookmark Grey Likes Weddings. And then go there every day. 
 
Wedding Chicks 
 
Wedding Chicks is a great resource of the crafty and DIY bride. They have a shop, free printables, tips and tricks and feature the most darling weddings. Ever. They are a great resource for inspiration and have lots of ideas for things that are outside of the box. They recently featured a post on yarn centerpieces and I drooled, a little. 
 
Do you have a favorite wedding blog that you use for your planning? What has helped most in the planning of your day? I'd love to hear! 
 

To Past, Current and Future Clients

WeddingLove

When I was a kid, I LOVED to make friends, and not much has changed since. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that I am an only child. Growing up without brothers or sisters, my friends became the family that I never had. I cherish the relationships that I've formed with others over these last 27 years of life and I am so grateful for those people in my life.

Because my business is a direct extension of me, it's not hard to believe that I love to become friends with my clients. In my first official year of business I formed great relationships with my clients. I treasured their trust and faith in me, but more importantly I valued their friendships.

I quickly realized that this was how I wanted my business to look. I realized that these were the types of relationships that I wanted to have with my clients. I realized that I wanted to be more than just their photographer. I wanted to know what was happening in their lives, I wanted to be able to connect with each couple on a human level. I wanted to be their friend.

Here's a photo of Stephanie and Erik who came to our Christmas Party this past year. I had set up a photo booth in our spare bedroom but spent most of the time cooking and hosting that I hardly knew the mayhem that was happening upstairs. Well, my client meeting space is connected directly to the spare bedroom. At the end of the night when I was checking the card, I found these gems left as a present for me by Steph and Erik. Thanks for being great clients and great friends guys!

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If you're a client of Deborah Zoe Photo, most likely I am going to try to friend you on Facebook, use too many smiley faces in emails and hope that we can become good friends. I want to share a cup of coffee with you, gush over the new Anthropologie bridal line, discuss our favorite movies, "like" your photos of your dog and learn all that I can about the person that you are.

So past, current and future clients, I hope that I we can develop a relationship beyond just vendor and client. I hope that we can become friends:)